Fuar\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc g\u00fcn\u00fcnde d\u00fczenlenen s\u00f6yle\u015fide yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur, Kapakl\u0131\u2019daki okurlar\u0131yla bulu\u015ftu. S\u00f6yle\u015fide \u2018Babalar da bir y\u00fcrek ta\u015f\u0131r\u2019 konusunda konu\u015fan Sinan Ya\u011fmur, \u201cBir insan\u0131n olgunla\u015fmas\u0131, kemale ermesi ya\u015f\u0131yla de\u011fildir, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131ylad\u0131r. Ya\u015f insan\u0131 kemale erdirmez. Yokluk, gurbet, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131, a\u00e7l\u0131k, \u00f6l\u00fcm, ayr\u0131l\u0131k, b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar bizi olgunla\u015ft\u0131ran, pi\u015firen \u015feylerdir. \u0130nsan ya\u015fad\u0131k\u00e7a pi\u015fer, yanar Mevlana gibi\u201d dedi.<\/span><\/p>\n Saat 14.00\u2019te Kapakl\u0131 Atat\u00fcrk K\u00fclt\u00fcr Merkezi Konferans Salonu\u2019nda d\u00fczenlenen s\u00f6yle\u015fiye Kapakl\u0131 Belediye Ba\u015fkan\u0131 Mustafa \u00c7etin, belediye ba\u015fkan yard\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131, \u0130l\u00e7e Milli E\u011fitim M\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fc \u0130rfan Dan\u0131\u015fmaz, \u00f6\u011frenciler ve vatanda\u015flar kat\u0131ld\u0131. Kapakl\u0131\u2019ya 5\u2019inci kez geldi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur, \u201cHer geldi\u011fimizde daha g\u00fczel bir Kapakl\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Biz yazarlar\u0131n, sanat\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n ve e\u011fitimcilerin bu d\u00f6nemde en \u00e7ok arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bizi \u00f6nemseyerek dinleyip bizi g\u00f6n\u00fcllerine al\u0131p efendi, erdemli ve edepli gen\u00e7leri bir maden gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cB\u0130R BABA KAPISI ARALAYALIM\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Lisede \u00f6\u011fretmenlik y\u0131llar\u0131nda bir olay ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, akabinde \u2018Her Anne Bir Melek\u2019 kitab\u0131n\u0131 yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Ya\u011fmur, \u201cYazarlar durup dururken \u2018\u015f\u00f6yle bir kitap yazay\u0131m\u2019 demez. Bazen kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir olay, \u015fahit oldu\u011fu bir ac\u0131, i\u00e7ine do\u011fan bir i\u00e7sellikle kitap do\u011far. Kitaplar da insanlar gibidir. Bir \u00f6\u011frencinin veli toplant\u0131s\u0131nda annesine a\u011f\u0131r hakaretler edip, herkesin i\u00e7inde annesinin a\u011flamas\u0131na sebep oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcnce ben o ak\u015fam uyku uyuyamad\u0131m.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u2018Ne oluyor gen\u00e7lere, neden anne babalar\u0131n\u0131 azarl\u0131yorlar\u2019 dedim. Bizim gen\u00e7lerimiz, insanlar\u0131m\u0131z, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z b\u00f6yle de\u011fildi. Allah kitab\u0131nda anneye babaya h\u00fcrmeti emrediyor. \u2018Acaba bu gen\u00e7lerimiz televizyon dizilerinden, sosyal medyadan, baz\u0131 \u015feylerden kaynaklanarak b\u00f6yle bir davran\u0131\u015fa m\u0131 giriyor? Belki onun fark\u0131nda de\u011fil. O zaman bir yazar olarak, bir e\u011fitimci olarak yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z kitaplarla gen\u00e7lere mesaj vermeliyiz\u2019 dedim.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Herkesin annesi kendine g\u00f6re bir melektir. \u2018Her Anne Bir Melek\u2019 kitab\u0131n\u0131 yazd\u0131m. \u00c7ok tutuldu, \u00e7ok sevildi. Edebiyat\u0131n, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n yaln\u0131zlar\u0131 var, onlar pek anla\u015f\u0131lmazlar. Onlar\u0131 kaybetti\u011fimiz zaman, topra\u011fa b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zaman anlar\u0131z. \u015eiir vefas\u0131z kalm\u0131\u015f onlara kar\u015f\u0131, edebiyat, roman vefas\u0131z kalm\u0131\u015f. Neden babalarla ilgili bir kitap yok, bir \u015fiir yok? Neden Babalar G\u00fcn\u00fc yok? Var da art\u0131k pek kutlanm\u0131yor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u2018Bir baba y\u00fcre\u011fiyle bir kitap yazal\u0131m ve bir baba kap\u0131s\u0131 aralayal\u0131m\u2019 dedim. Bu aralamay\u0131 s\u00f6yle\u015fi olarak ilk kez Kapakl\u0131\u2019da yapaca\u011f\u0131z. Bu konudaki ilk s\u00f6yle\u015fiyi burada yap\u0131yorum. Konusu da \u2018Babalar da bir y\u00fcrek ta\u015f\u0131r\u2019\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cBABALAR YALNIZDIR\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Babalar\u0131n t\u0131pk\u0131 buzdolab\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7indeki lambalar gibi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen Ya\u011fmur, \u201cBir\u00e7o\u011fumuz buzdolab\u0131n\u0131n kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7ar\u0131z ama onun i\u00e7indeki lamban\u0131n yand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varmay\u0131z. K\u0131zlar gelin gidince, erkekler ilk \u00e7ocu\u011fu oldu\u011funda hem\u015fire \u00e7ocu\u011fu kuca\u011f\u0131na verdi\u011finde veya baba \u00f6l\u00fcnce anlarlar baban\u0131n hayatta doldurdu\u011fu b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fczelli\u011fi. Babalar yery\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcn en yaln\u0131zlar\u0131d\u0131r.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n T\u00fcrkler ataerkil toplumdur dediklerine bakmay\u0131n. Biz anaerkil bir toplumuz. Kainatta Allah\u2019\u0131n, evde kad\u0131n\u0131n anan\u0131n dedi\u011fi olur. Babalar yaln\u0131zd\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc evde bir e\u015fyan\u0131n yer de\u011fi\u015ftirmesine bile s\u00f6z\u00fc ge\u00e7mez. Ama evin reisi g\u00f6z\u00fck\u00fcr. Genellikle baba alg\u0131s\u0131 bizde \u015fudur, aileyi koruyan, ailenin ge\u00e7imini sa\u011flayan bir bankamatik, bir ATM.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Babalar\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 pek g\u00f6rmeyiz. Duygusall\u0131\u011f\u0131 onlara yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131z. Babayla evlad\u0131n aras\u0131na bazen istemedi\u011fimiz u\u00e7urumlar konulur. Genellikle babam\u0131z\u0131 so\u011fuk, duygusu, halden anlamayan, sert, otoriter olmakla yarg\u0131lar\u0131z. Onlar\u0131n \u00fc\u015f\u00fcmesi, onlar\u0131n hastalanmas\u0131, hatta onlar\u0131n a\u011flamas\u0131 bile bizim i\u00e7in d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmez. \u0130\u015fte b\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemdeyiz\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cBABAMIN G\u00d6R\u00dcNMEYEN D\u00dcNYASINI G\u00d6RMEM\u0130 SA\u011eLADI\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Lise ikinci s\u0131n\u0131fta \u00f6\u011frenciyken anla\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00e7at\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 tek ki\u015finin babas\u0131 oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur, \u201cBabam bana \u00e7ok duygusuz bir adam gibi geliyor. Bir kere bile sormuyor \u2018okulun nas\u0131l gidiyor\u2019 diye. Bir kere y\u00fcz\u00fcme g\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmedim. Bazen akl\u0131ma \u2018beni evlatl\u0131k olarak m\u0131 ald\u0131lar?\u2019 diye geliyor. Babam i\u015f gere\u011fi bazen \u015fehir d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kmak zorunda kal\u0131rd\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n Okuldan geldi\u011fimde annem \u2018baban\u0131z 2 g\u00fcn yok\u2019 dedi\u011finde havaya z\u0131pl\u0131yordum, seviniyorum. Babam\u0131n evde olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 2 g\u00fcn benim i\u00e7in cennet. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baban\u0131n evde yemek yerken dudak \u015fap\u0131rdatmas\u0131, nefesi, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bana bat\u0131yor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc babama kar\u015f\u0131 bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m benim taraf\u0131mdan b\u00f6yle. Ancak bir de \u00f6b\u00fcr taraf\u0131 varm\u0131\u015f bunun.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Beni kendime getiren, babam\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmemi sa\u011flayan okudu\u011fum bir kitap oldu. 1983 y\u0131l\u0131nda Re\u015fat Nuri G\u00fcntekin\u2019in \u2018Ac\u0131mak\u2019 roman\u0131n\u0131 okumaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Okuduk\u00e7a bir \u015feyleri g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Onu okuduk\u00e7a babam\u0131 g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cBABALAR PEK ANLA\u015eILMIYOR\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Babalar\u0131n pek anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Ya\u011fmur, \u015f\u00f6yle konu\u015ftu: \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc gelenek, g\u00f6renek, adetlerle bazen yanl\u0131\u015f telkinlerle \u00e7ocukla baban\u0131n aras\u0131 tamamen a\u00e7\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u2018Erkek dedi\u011fin sert olmal\u0131\u2019, \u2018Baba dedi\u011fin \u00e7ocukla \u015fakala\u015fmamal\u0131\u2019, \u2018\u00c7ocuk dedi\u011fin babadan korkmal\u0131, sen ne bi\u00e7im babas\u0131n\u2019 Babaya bir rol verilmi\u015f, sert olmak, duygusuz olmak, g\u00fcl\u00fcmsememek.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Bu babal\u0131k rol\u00fcne ilaveten bazen baz\u0131 anneler, evde \u00e7ocuk hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendisi k\u0131zmak yerine \u2018Ak\u015fam baban gelsin, sen g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u2019 diyerek babayla korkutmu\u015f. Baba s\u00fcrekli korkutulan, ceza veren, gardiyan gibi bir varl\u0131k olarak alg\u0131lanm\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fun zihninde. Zaten baba \u00e7ocu\u011fa yakla\u015fam\u0131yor, babayla \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda bir u\u00e7urum a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131yor, iki rakip gibi, iki d\u00fc\u015fman gibi yeti\u015fmi\u015fler bir ailenin i\u00e7erisinde.<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0\u0130ki yabanc\u0131 gibi, g\u00f6n\u00fclleri kapanm\u0131\u015f gibi. \u0130\u015fte b\u00f6yle bir duygu i\u00e7erisinde gelenek ve g\u00f6renekler de baz\u0131 \u015feyleri y\u00fcklemi\u015f. \u015eimdiki gen\u00e7ler \u00e7ok \u015fansl\u0131. Bizim d\u00f6nemimizde bir baban\u0131n kendi \u00e7ocu\u011funu aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerinin yan\u0131nda kuca\u011f\u0131na almas\u0131, sevmesi ay\u0131pt\u0131. O nedenle babalar bir h\u0131rs\u0131z gibi gece \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 uyurken onlar\u0131 sevip ok\u015fard\u0131. Ne \u00e7ocuk bilirdi sevildi\u011fini, ne de baba o duyguyu ya\u015fayabilirdi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n O\u011flu askere giderken a\u011flayamazd\u0131. K\u0131z\u0131 gelin ederdi, g\u00f6zya\u015f\u0131 d\u00f6kemezdi. Yavrusunu \u00fcniversiteye g\u00f6nderirken a\u011flamas\u0131 yasakt\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc babalar\u0131n a\u011flamas\u0131, hastalanmas\u0131, \u00fc\u015f\u00fcmesi, ac\u0131kmas\u0131 babalara yak\u0131\u015fmazd\u0131. Babalar\u0131n duygusu yoktu, sanki onlar ta\u015ftan bir insan olarak anlat\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. B\u00f6yle olunca \u00e7ocuk babas\u0131na yakla\u015famazd\u0131. Aradaki o so\u011fuk mesafe zaman i\u00e7erisinde kemikle\u015fir, b\u00fcy\u00fcr giderdi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Baba i\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde k\u00f6\u015fesine \u00e7ekilirdi, duygusunu belli edemezdi. \u2018K\u0131z\u0131m seni seviyorum\u2019, \u2018O\u011flum seninle gurur duyuyorum\u2019 diyemezdi. Bunu demesi eziklikti, bunu demesi yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131, ay\u0131pt\u0131. Ben babam i\u00e7in d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerimden dolay\u0131m kendimi su\u00e7lad\u0131m. Ac\u0131mak kitab\u0131 bitti\u011finde i\u00e7imde bir pi\u015fmanl\u0131k vard\u0131.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Babam\u0131n bulundu\u011fu odaya do\u011fru gittim, \u2018Baba biliyorum beni seviyorsun ama bug\u00fcne kadar hi\u00e7 s\u00f6ylemedin. Ben senden cesur davran\u0131yorum, baba seni seviyorum\u2019 deyip yama\u011f\u0131ndan \u00f6p\u00fcp ka\u00e7t\u0131m. Ertesi g\u00fcn annem geldi yan\u0131ma \u2018D\u00fcn ak\u015fam sen odadan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131nca baban\u0131n g\u00f6zlerinden ya\u015f s\u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc, ilk defa onun a\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm\u2019 dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cBEN\u0130M D\u00dc\u015eT\u00dc\u011e\u00dcM HAYATA ONLAR D\u00dc\u015eMES\u0130N\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Babas\u0131n\u0131 kaybettikten sonra \u2018Babalar da a\u011flar\u2019 isimli bir kitap yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Ya\u011fmur, \u201c\u0130stedim ki gen\u00e7li\u011finde baz\u0131 \u015feyleri g\u00f6remeyen k\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z ve gen\u00e7lerimizin baban\u0131n sevgisini, onun koca y\u00fcre\u011fini g\u00f6rs\u00fcnler. Dar\u0131lmas\u0131nlar, g\u00fcvenmesinler, sar\u0131ls\u0131nlar, omzunu yaslas\u0131nlar. Bir kere babalar\u0131na dokunsunlar ve konu\u015fsunlar.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Benim d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm hataya onlar d\u00fc\u015fmesin\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cYA\u015e \u0130NSANI KEMALE ERD\u0130RMEZ\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n babalar\u0131n\u0131n gururu oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen Ya\u011fmur, \u201cBir insan\u0131n olgunla\u015fmas\u0131, kemale ermesi ya\u015f\u0131yla de\u011fildir, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131ylad\u0131r. Ya\u015f insan\u0131 kemale erdirmez. Yokluk, gurbet, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131, a\u00e7l\u0131k, \u00f6l\u00fcm, ayr\u0131l\u0131k, b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar bizi olgunla\u015ft\u0131ran, pi\u015firen \u015feylerdir. \u0130nsan ya\u015fad\u0131k\u00e7a pi\u015fer, yanar Mevlana gibi\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n OKURLARI \u0130\u00c7\u0130N K\u0130TAPLARINI \u0130MZALADI<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n S\u00f6yle\u015finin ard\u0131ndan Yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur\u2019a Kapakl\u0131 Belediye Ba\u015fkan\u0131 Mustafa \u00c7etin taraf\u0131ndan \u00e7i\u00e7ek ve plaket takdim edildi. Yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur da \u00e7i\u00e7ekleri \u00f6\u011frencilere hediye etti. S\u00f6yle\u015finin ard\u0131ndan yazar Sinan Ya\u011fmur, okurlar\u0131 i\u00e7in kitaplar\u0131n\u0131 imzalad\u0131.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n![](\"https:\/\/marmarahaber.com.tr\/resimler\/2023-10\/10\/7741758084491.webp\"\/)
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